Tuesday, October 16, 2012

One Way or The Other

I was thinking this morning about bloggers.

Some people do it for a journal--like me.

Some people started out that way and now its also a job.

Some people started a blog to make sure their voice gets heard.

All of us though, i think, struggle with what to write or how to write it.

You see, some people blogs seem PERFECT. The moms houses look wonderful ALL the time in their pictures...there is vacation after vacation, their kids are put together and kind and do what they say, they never seem to have disappointments. Well, we all know that that is not how life tends to work. 

Jace's brother and wife have adopted a little girl (5 years ago) and are in the middle of the process again. All those years ago she had her blog as a way to perspective parents to take a peek into their lives.

But most of the time we blog about the good things in our life...not the nitty-gritty every day stuff. So we go one way or another. I feel like i have a hard time maintaining even ground myself. 

My life is not glamorous by any means. Its not bad by any stretch either! However, i feel like my posts are either "We did this, I finished this craft, I'm happy because...OR its complaining and frustration about the fact that we don't have a baby yet and my dreary mood about how bad i feel."

Most days i'm ON middle ground. But those are the days where i wake up, go to work, come home, clean, maybe read a book or watch some movies, make dinner, hang out with husband doing nothing (poor jace has long days, so vegging out most nights is what he likes to do), going to bed, and starting over.

Most days I'm not crying over every announced pregnancy, I'm not crying because i don't have a baby. I have my roller coaster days where that happens. But most days our lives are not exciting. 

So I don't blog. There is nothing to note of that day in my journal. 

But i'm trying to be better. And its not for anyone other than myself. I'm trying to find the positive in the day or in SOMETHING that makes me smile. And that's not too one way or the other. Its my middle ground. :)


  1. I love you so much for this ;) It's true - there are those people that just make you sick with jealousy then I remember that I only really post the good stuff too ;)

    And here's to boring lives ;)

  2. I love reading about the mundane stuff, too! Don't just blog when you have something awesome happening. Those people probably don't really have perfect lives. Or maybe they do. But I don't know anyone who has a perfect life. It breaks my heart about the baby part. Whenever someone announces a pregnancy, even if you don't know them, I think about you and yearn for the day that I hear your announcement. You are so strong.

  3. Andrea,
    Is your husband's brother's wife's name, Mindy? If so, I worked with her husband, and daughter Grace, yesterday with Float Away Films. Outside my job in the ER, I am a cinematographer with Float Away Films. I'm almost positive we're talking about the same person, based on the information you gave in your blog. They are one beautiful family! I loved hearing their story.


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